“If You Have 10 Minutes a Day, I’ll Show You How to END Your Child’s Behavior Problems For Good.”
My name is Dr. Randy Cale, a Licensed Psychologist, Child Specialist and parenting expert…and guess what: If your child is defiant, pushing limits, throwing tantrums, whining and generally… not listening, there is a way out. In a week or less, you can turn things around…and it’s NOT by talking more, negotiating better or coming up with more ways to re-direct your child. Those ‘typical’ parenting tools will not work for you. Why?
Well, before I answer, let’s talk about whether it makes any sense to pay attention to me. Now, some of you might have seen me on TV talking about how to turn a defiant, whining, crying, biting, tantrum-throwing, stubborn-as-a-mule child into a happy, confident, well-behaved child. If you have seen me doing interviews or perhaps read some of my articles, you might want to skip the next paragraph. But for most of you, you might be wondering…
“Why Should I Listen To Dr Cale…Or Take His Advice?”
Good question. I think you should ask that question, and sincerely seek an answer. When searching online, you can get advice from anyone and everyone who has an opinion…and most people do. Many of those opinions are frankly…hurtful to your family…if you follow their suggestions.
Why? Because the quality of knowledge really matters! Some opinions you read are just opinions, based upon very limited data. Other opinions are nurtured in years of experience, and contain tremendous value. It’s important to see the difference.
I know…you wouldn’t consider heart surgery from your accountant neighbor, or from the self-appointed health junky down the street…would you? You wouldn’t trust your child’s health to grandma’s home remedy, when his fever is 104. Right?
Then, please…consider carefully the source of the opinions you read (when it comes to your child’s future). With proper understanding of behavioral principles that apply to these tough children, relief is just days away. (Truly…just days!) With poor guidance, you could be in for a battle for years to come and your child set on an unhealthy path with lifelong consequences.
But first…some brutal honesty.
I am biased….strongly biased. I admit it. Here’s why:
Education and Experience…and Great Teachers!
- Years of training and education in understanding behavior and how to change it, even in difficult situations.
- Master’s degree and Doctorate degree are in Psychology
- Advanced Post doctoral studies in cognitive behavioral innovations, short-term treatment models, neuropsychology, family therapy, mind-body medicine, neurllinguistic programming and more.
- I have helped over 7,000 families with stubborn, defiant children
- The news media trusts me to provide them with expert advice on parenting problems
- I’ve written hundreds of published articles on parenting
- Hundreds of parents have written to me explaining how much of positive difference these programs make
But The Real Secret: Great Teachers!
The real secret to my success in helping parents with tough kids is my experience working with children and parents just like you. Everything I know is a combination of experience, training, and learning from parents of formerly out-of-control children.
So when I say great teachers, I mean those amazing families that helped me understand that patience, love and hard work were not enough (still needed…but not enough). You can love a child to death…and they (depending upon the temperament) will still walk all over you. You can be patient, and they will still continue to show no patience. You can work very, very hard at parenting, and still have no control.
NONE of the above is necessarily true for easy children. In fact, much of this conversation is not about easy children. They are…by definition…EASY! You can get by with very sloppy parenting (still…not advised) with an easy child, and the results don’t look so bad. That’s just being honest. Easy children don’t push limits. Easy children don’t challenge as much. Easy children tend to want to listen. Not much of that will apply to you.
When the challenging, defiant child comes along…it’s another story. You need BETTER TOOLS in your parenting toolbox. That’s honest too.!
I have worked with thousands of those families either in my office, in my parent coaching or through my online services. I have seen what tools are needed, what approaches work and what doesn’t work. Here are the kinds of questions parents ask about their children, and this program I am offering.
“Questions Frequently Asked By Parents Like You”
Q. Can You Change A Defiant Child In Just Seven Days With Your Program?
A. No, sometimes it works in as little as three days. Most often though, seven days is about all it takes. Because the course can be paced to meet your needs, you can take longer if you want.
Q. Does The Defiant Child Program Always Work?
A. Not always. In my experience, about 98% of parents report success, while two percent of parents who try my child behavior programs don’t experience success. But remember, “The One Week Child Turnaround” is backed by my 100% guarantee. If it doesn’t work, you get your money back. Period.
Q. Are Oppositional, Strong-Willed or Defiant Children Really Able To Change?
A. Yes. In fact, many strong-willed children succeed very quickly. They learn to make choices that serve their interests and bring them happiness – making stubbornness unnecessary. Honestly, at the child stage, Mom & Dad’s mastery of the right tools is the most important factor controlling the speed of change.
Q. What About Real Diagnoses, Like ADD, ADHD, ODD & Others? Still Work?
A. Children who have been previously diagnosed with these types of behavioral problems are just as likely to succeed using these methods. In fact, one key feature of this program is that Dr Cale turns you focus from the diagnosis…to handling the problem behavior that is ‘right in front of you.’ We can’t treat the diagnosis…in the moment of an all out tantrum or meltdown. We can however, learn how to respond better to that moment…and teach from that moment. Bottom line: this program is designed to help you get control of your home, even in the face of such daunting ‘disorders.’
Q. What If I Don’t Do Anything? Won’t This Defiant Behavior Just Go Away…On It’s Own?
A. No. Not likely, and here’s why: This defiant behavior keeps pulling you into it. No matter how hard you try, you end up getting sucked into the defiance…arguing with a three year old…over and over. Or fighting over socks again. Or trying to get them into bed. Without tools to change your response, your ‘reactive’ tendencies just guarantee that the defiance, the resistance and challenging behavior WILL get worse.
Q. Can I Blend This Program With Other Ideas I Have Read About?
A. No. “The Defiant Child Program” works because it is precise. If you have other solutions, by all means try them if you wish. But do not incorporate them into what Dr Cale teaches in this program.
“Does This Sound Like Your Child?”
I don’t want to!
You can’t make me!
No, no, no!
I hate you!
“Mom…Sounds Like You?”
Nothing works with this kid!
I’ve tried everything!
I’ve had it!
I can’t take this anymore!
It wasn’t supposed to be this hard.
What’s wrong with this kid?
If this sounds familiar, I want you to know that you’re not alone.
I’ve seen some very intelligent and very determined parents struggle with child behavior problems such as biting, screaming, tantrums and defiance.
Here’s a classic example of what my coaching clients have experienced. Does this sound familiar?
(just a sample of your day)
Parent: Time to wake up… (as you sing his favorite good morning song)
Strong Willed Child(SWC): No! Go Away!
Parents: Good morning Sweetie… Please take off your PJ’s and get dressed for me…
SWC: (Jumps out of bed, takes off running and laughing.)
Parent: (Firmly stated) Come back here right now!
SWC: (No response…)
Parent: If you don’t come back here, I will…
SWC: No, I don’t want to!
Parent: (Pause…audible sigh…but still reasonably calm) Sweetie…if you come and get dressed I’ll make your favorite chocolate waffles for breakfast!
SWC: (Runs away to toy room and ignores your offer)
Now this is just the start, mind you. After bribing your with their favorite breakfast and asking them to come eat, they start in with how they hate what you’ve prepared and how they want something else. Typical…
Oh, and then it’s time to plop down in front of the TV for a bit while you clean up and maybe put in a load of laundry but the next argument ensues over what to watch as all your suggestions are rejected and tensions nearly boil over. Just another day in the life of well-intentioned parent raising a stubborn and strong willed child.
If you’re like some of my other coaching clients, you’re exhausted at the end of the day because your child has walked all over you. Another day has passed with you wondering how a child can have this much power of you. You’re embarrassed and questioning your own parenting skills while day after day goes by with your child is missing out on learning how to be responsible for his behavior.
Now for some of you reading, it’s not quite this bad. But some of you might be saying… “Oh, that’s just the tip of the iceberg!”
Regardless, you’re not alone and it doesn’t have to be this way. I know this because I’ve been working with parents for decades. I’ve helped over 7,000 families (in my private practice) who had children with behavior problems. I’ve also helped thousands of families through my online products and services.
As A Psychologist, I’ve Worked With…
- Families with hard-headed 4-5-6… or even 7-8 have screaming fits 2-3 times a day, often in the middle of department stores, the bank waiting line and even at grandma’s house.
- Single dad’s with preschoolers who throw cereal bowls across the room, bite like wild animals when they don’t get their way and hit without remorse.
- Parents with children who seem to be angels at school and turn to monsters the moment they get home.
- Mom’s who are gentle and easy, as well as mom’s who are firm and believe in discipline, who still can’t manage their stubborn, uncooperative strong-willed child despite reading a dozen books on parenting.
- Mom’s with two year olds who seemed to redefine “The Terrible Two’s,” where aggression, stomping feet and meltdowns are part of daily life.
These were all families who were frustrated, at the end of their rope and had tried everything – yet nothing had worked. Until now…
“What Those 7,000 Families NOW Know…
That You Might Not”
I learned a great deal studying for my PhD in Psychology.
However, I’ve learned far more from the 7,000+ families I’ve helped during my more than two decades of clinical practice. Now I can share what I’ve learned, not just with my in-office parents and children, but with you – and thousands like you – who are desperate for a solution to their child’s defiant and strong-willed behavior. Here’s just a small sample of the things I’ve figured out during my career…
“Key Lessons I Have Learned”
1. How most parents sabotage “time outs” (while trying to do the right thing)
2. Why kids don’t care if you punish them for bad behavior (especially defiant children)
3. When parents should stop reassuring a child (and most of us don’t know this secret to self-esteem)
4. How to choose calm over “insanity” and keep your kids from stealing your peace of mind.
5. Ways you can weed out the bad behaviors quickly, while nurturing the beginnings of cooperation.
6. How to plant and nourish the seeds of good behavior and help your child want to do the right thing
7. Why controlling the home environment ultimately brings your control over those stubborn, out-of-control moments (the true secret to teaching good behavior… rather than futile efforts to control your child)
8. What structure means to a child and a family (NOT what you think!)
9. When and how to use consequences as a way to improve your child’s behavior (the hush-hush bread and butter tools that keeps psychologist in business)
With your peace of mind and the development of your child as my focus – I’ve taken what I’ve learned from those 7,000 kids and their parents and turned it into a ten minute a day parenting course you can listen (or watch) in the comfort of your home, just minutes from now.
In just a week, I’ll show you how to get your child doing what you want them to do, when you want them to do it. The whole program will take only 90 minutes of your time, and each day you will have tiny, small steps to take… and each one will put you back in control of your home!
Introducing: The Defiant Child Program
A Child Discipline Package Developed Especially For the Strong-Willed, Challenging, Defiant Child
“The Psychologist’s Seven Day Solution to Your Child’s Stubborn, Un-Cooperative Behavior That Has You at Your Wit’s End!”
First, understand you are not alone..
Second, you are not a bad parent..
Third, your child’s behavior CAN change and, at this age, behavior improves quickly…(when you GET it!)
The One Thing Every Parent Should Know
Some of you may have resigned yourselves to believing your child’s stubborn streak is genetic and there’s just nothing you’ll ever do that will change their behavior.
While there is evidence that stubborn, resistant behavior can begin as early as 10-12 weeks old (YES… some of you know this already!)
Yet, this doesn’t mean you are powerless. Far from it, actually. The key is using understanding that this type of resistant, strong-willed child requires a better understanding of behavior, and a better set of parenting tools in your toolbox. Without those tools, you are stuck doing the same old thing…day in…and day out.
You’re worn out from struggling your child, day after day after day. Your sanity, your health and your relationships are at risk. Your child’s future is at risk as well, as these foundational years determine future patterns of responsibility and discipline.
Enough is enough. “The Defiant Child Program” will help you end the fight so you regain your sanity and focus on raising kids who are a joy to be around and who have a passion for life and learning.
Doesn’t that sound like the best use of your time and money?
As the child specialist who has worked with thousands of families… It does to me. I can’t understand going through another day of struggles and battles, when a proven solution is within reach.
I have seen the consequences of a failure to take action and get the right help. I have seen the results of continued battles, and the effects on children and parents. I know first-hand how utterly destructive such defiant patterns can be to a child’s future.
If you’re ready to restore peace to your relationship with your child and if you know you can’t do it alone, this program is exactly what you need.
Several years ago, I realized I could only treat so many children a day in my office. But so many more families are suffering, headed down the wrong path and if they only knew these principles and had these precise parenting tools, they could literally work miracles with their child’s behavior in no time at all.
“The Defiant Child Program” is a seven session online course, that gives you all the tools you need to turn mule-stubborn, uncooperative, and downright bratty children into cooperative, mature, well-behaved boys and girls – in as little as one week. Implement each easy-to-learn step one day at a time, and in a week… you are done! Or… you will still get the same result, even if you need a bit more time, or have to take a day off here or there. It will just give you more opportunity to practice the skills you are learning!
There are thousands of children out there just like yours, who are driving their parents BONKERS with their stubborn, unresponsive, and defiant behavior. There is hope…opportunity…and a way to change your child’s behavior – quickly.
“The Parenting Psychologist”
That’s what the press calls me. When I appear on television, or I’m quoted in print, reporters often ask me the same questions you and other parents are curious about…
- How do I reason with my child so I can get him to do what I want?
- Why is my daughter so defiant, even about the smallest things?
- My child skipped the terrible twos but now we’re in the middle of the ferocious fours. What happened?
- My kid doesn’t seem to respond to my punishments. Why?
- My son screams “No!” and runs off when I ask for the littlest things? Why won’t he cooperate?
- What should I do when my child opposes everything we try to do, at home or in public?
- Is there something wrong with my child…or maybe with me?
Let’s start with most important answer of all…
“Your Child Is Normal. And So Are You.”
After years of treating families and children like yours, I’ve arrived at an important conclusion: Despite what many people think, families with misbehaving children usually do not need therapy.
That’s right. You don’t need therapy…and in all likelihood, neither does your child. What you need are REAL TOOLS that teach you how to use positive parenting and discipline (not punishment) to gain control of that defiant, stubborn, difficult behavior…
“The Defiant Child Program” Is The Result Of Over 25 Years Of Helping Kids Like Yours”
Over the past 25-plus years, I’ve worked with so many tearful parents – so distraught over their children’s behavior it would send shivers down your spine.
There was the family that never made it into the waiting room because their defiant child simply refused to come into my office. ..he threw an embarrassing all out tantrum in the parking lot…
The countless children who insisted on negotiating over everything, finally throwing a hussy fit when they didn’t get what they wanted…
The divas-in-training who seem to believe that mom/dad are there to meet their every whim and desire, as well as the obstinate, out-right defiant boys who responded to no one and acted as if they were 16…
The children who held their breath until they turned blue…and then proceeded to meltdown into a crying, shivering sobbing emotional mess, while mom held on for dear life…
The 1st graders, 2nd graders and even 3rd graders who were completely uncooperative, strong-minded, and ODD (oppositional-defiant disorder)…and ruled the house with no sense of regret for their actions…
“AND LET’S NOT FORGET…”
The twins who took turns being intractable. Their uncompromising behavior was no match for their totally unprepared parents…
Jacob The Brick Wall
This young man’s story is just one of many which led to me developing The Defiant Child Program. Perhaps he’ll remind you of your own child…
Jacob was just five years old when I met him some years ago. In a way, it wasn’t like meeting a child. That’s because meeting Jacob was almost impossible. When I introduced myself, he folded his arms, turned his head to the side and donned a scowl of contempt.
Young Jacob had already been diagnosed with all sorts of behavioral problems ranging from ADHD (or Attention Deficit Hyperactive Disorder)to Bi-polar disorder to PTSD (or Post Traumatic Stress Disorder). Each disorder had let to a different trial of a different type of medication, and yet…nothing was improving. In fact, the opposite was happening. He was more unpredictable, more defiant and definitely…he was UNHAPPY. When his family came to me, they were hoping against hope.
Jacob refused to leave the house and literally had to be dragged to the car. Not figuratively, but literally. On the way into the office, Jacob screamed and cried. He kicked his father and bit his mother. The scene was right out of “The Nightmare of Parenting” movie. In the office he was completely unresponsive, his strong will testing the already weakened resolve of his parents. Even as the “Doctor” there was no moving or changing this pattern. When pushed, he pushed back harder.
His parents went from pleading with him to snap out of it threatening to lock him in his room for a week. Sometimes I still wonder why I took him on as a patient. Back then I was just beginning to formulate an integrated plan on how to deal with such difficult children and Jacob was a real test case for my emerging methods.
Eventually Jacob improved. He taught me a very valuable lesson, and it remains a foundation of all my work. We can never afford to get caught in the drama, and see things as desperate. Such behavior is always the result of learning experiences (combined with biology and heredity) and the process of bringing about change demands patience, non-reactivity and mostly… a clear set of parenting guidelines.
Jacob parents were highly motivated, and were willing to follow the guidelines. I re-trained his parents to effectively deal with his hardheadedness and out-right crazy behavior. To their credit, they followed my instructions to the letter. Very quickly, Jacob’s strong will was harnessed – not broken. His behavior steadily came into line. He remains a unique young man, but he is thriving in every way.
Let’s just say Jacob was one of many children who taught me not only to appreciate the challenges obstinate and difficult children bring, but to redouble my efforts to find a quick and effective solution to their behavior problems.
Now, after dealing with more than 7,000 families, I have the tools you can use to create cooperative, well-behaved kids. And with The Defiant Child Program you can do it in just seven days,
“The Defiant Child Program”
$47 Just $37
“Why The Defiant Child Program Works
When Traditional Treatments Don’t”
In my early years as a psychologist, naturally I followed the traditional methods taught to me in school. Unfortunately, they often didn’t seem to work very well. Week after week would pass by with parents and children desperately seeking solutions that I just didn’t seem to possess. My skills were more suited for long-term therapy, and keeping families in therapy for years.
I felt so guilty and inadequate. I knew there had to be a better answer. I just didn’t know what it was.
So I went back to the drawing board and started studying all over again. I studied short-term therapy. I studied pure behavioral strategies, and modern cognitive behavioral strategy. I studied Neurolinguistic Programming, and Dialectical Behavior Therapy. I even studied hypnotherapy, and other more esoteric therapies.
Now those fields of study may not mean anything to you but they are what led me to discover what really works and what definitely doesn’t. This focused rapid-change child behavior program combines the best that I have learned, and you benefit with a simple, clinic-proven game plan that gets you results fast.
“My Golden Rule: Keep Your Cool”
Once I had jump-started my thinking (and dealt with a number of children like Jacob), I came to realize one very important thing:
Many of the parents I was counseling suffered from the same thing…they had a short fuse that was simply looking for a reason to blow!
Let’s face it – parents grow very tired of dealing with strong willed children. Episode after episode of non-cooperation, defiance, and obstinance followed by screaming, yelling, and physical violence leaves you exhausted in both body and spirit. You doubt your ability to be a parent. On one hand you want your child to just listen and do what he’s told. On the other hand, you’re ready to knock him into next week!
You plead then threaten. You bargain. You punish. You try hugging and kissing and rationalizing. You yell back. In the end you will try almost anything to simply get the kid to do what you ask.
In other words, you lose your cool when dealing with your child.
The first thing “The One Week Child Turnaround” teaches is keep your cool. Whatever happens, whatever your child does, whatever path your emotions are leading you down – keep calm. Stay in control – don’t let dealing your strong minded child cause you to lose your composure. Without this skill… all is lost!
“You Have The Power..”
“10 Minutes A Day… To A More Well Behaved Child”
Before your child can improve his behavior, you must improve yours. By using “The Defiant Child Program” you can learn the step-by-step formula for gaining your child’s cooperation in just 10-15 minutes a day. You will also learn…
- How changing your attitude toward your child’s defiance is critical to your success
- What you must start, stop, and continue doing today to get your child to cooperate
- How to go from desperation mode to cooperation mode before things get out of hand
- How to handle your child’s most mule-stubborn, bullheaded moments
- Ways to teach your child to cope with frustration
- Why old models don’t work
- How to stay calm in the face of calamity
- How to avoid the two biggest mistakes you can make when using The Defiant Child Program
- What to do and say when your child’s strong will rears its ugly head in public
- Ways to build your child’s self-esteem
- What to never, ever say or do again if you want The One Week Child Turnaround to work
- How to stop listening to unhelpful advice
- Why The Defiant Child Program works when other solutions don’t
When you order “The Defiant Child Program”, you’ll be invited to download a step-by-step guide and 7 audio files, which you listen to online. Proceed at your own pace, taking more than a day with each session, or stick to the one lesson a day format – it’s up to you. The course is focused on five key principles that are essential to its success…
“The Defiant Child Program”
$47 Just $37
“How This Program Could Save You
Hundreds of Dollars on Child Therapy”
Considering I charge upwards of $200 for each in-house therapy session and it takes 4-6 sessions (on average) to correct this behavior problem, you’re getting a great deal by paying just $37 for “The Defiant Child Program”
But I’m not satisfied with just selling you this vital material and calling it a day. As you can see, I have a public reputation to uphold, and I’m not risking it for a measly $37
In my 20+ years of practice, I’ve learned how to handle far more than just stubborn children. These bonus materials are my gift to you as thanks for trusting in me and supporting my life’ work. Use them, enjoy them, and enjoy raising your children to become mature adults and positive influences in our society…
Bonus # 1: The Tantrum Fixer Ultimate Trouble Shooter mp3 Audio Download (Valued at $47) FREE
The Ultimate Trouble Shooter is for when your child’s stubbornness is proving particularly difficult or unusual, especially when it comes to whining, tantrums and meltdowns. It’s based on feedback from parents who have used my other behavior modification programs over the last five years.
When you have a question specific to tantrums or tantrum-like behavior, take a look in the Ultimate Trouble Shooter. You just might find exactly the right solution at absolutely no cost to you.
Bonus # 2: A-Z Parenting Guide (Value $29.95) FREE
From the hundreds of articles I’ve written on everything about parenting, I’ve selected these 32 as the ‘Cream of the Crop’. They cover everything from tantrums to building your child’s self-confidence to homework habits. Every one of them is a gem, containing advice I have tested and enjoyed success with over the last 20+ years.
The A-Z Parenting Guide normally sells for $29.95 but you’ll get it free with your purchase of The Defiant Child Program.
Bonus # 3: The Confident Child (Value $47) FREE
One of the most frequent questions parents ask me is about child confidence. When you see signs that your child is lacking confidence, it’s natural to have many worries about how they will stand up to bullies, developing meaningful relationships with their peer group, and perform up to their potential in the classroom.
Many times when children lack confidence, they either put forth less than full effort or abandon their work altogether. In other words, when you lack confidence, you give up more easily because you don’t believe you can do it.
The Confident Child explains the secrets to raising a child with unstoppable self-confidence and a powerful sense of self-esteem. With a few simple changes, you’ll be able to ensure that your child grows up strong, confident, and secure. All for no additional cost with your purchase of the program.
The Confident Child audio program will teach you my step-by-step system for bolstering your child’s self-confidence in just one day.
You’ll also learn…
- Three signs of low self-worth in your child
- Two common parenting mistakes that almost always undermine a child’s self-esteem
- The one sentence you must always remember to use for building self-confidence
- How to make sure homework, play time and extracurricular activities support your child’s self-esteem
- Specific tools for helping your child deal with sibling rivalry
- The right way and the wrong way to talk to your child about self-confidence
Dr. Cale, I’m Ready For Better Behavior!
- I understand that if I use your professional, time proven step-by-step action plan, I will have a strategy for overcoming my child’s behavior problems.
- I understand that for only $37 I will be able to download immediately your life changing action plan that will teach me raising the defiant child
- I also understand I am backed by 365-day, 100% NO RISK GUARANTEE.
Parents -I know you’d pay just about any price to have well-behaved children who are polite, confident, and even-tempered. But I wanted to get this program into as many parent’s hands as possible…
Pay one low price and get the proven success of “The Defiant Child Program” AND these 3 highly valuable bonus items.
I also understand this download package includes:
|INSTANT DOWNLOAD||“The Defiant Child Program” 7 Day Course
(A $131 Value) Audio Program
|INSTANT DOWNLOAD||The Confident Child (Value $47) Audio Download
|INSTANT DOWNLOAD||The A-Z Parenting Guide (Value $29.95) PDF Download
|INSTANT DOWNLOAD||The Tantrum Fixer Ultimate Trouble Shooter mp3 Audio Download (A $47 Value)|
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